If my ex calls should i answer

Sometimes this is out of habit, it could be a way to vent their anger, and other times, they aren't ready to feel disconnected from their ex. They think that they will feel some satisfaction from responding, and they might for a short time, but usually, afterward, they feel worse, potentially ruining the entire day.

If you decide to answer that message, ask yourself what you plan to get out of doing it? If it's any of the reasons mentioned above, you should probably consider ignoring it and looking for other ways to cope. If you both have kids or share assets and he or she is contacting you about that, it's best to respond to it, but try to be brief and civil, especially if it's something urgent.

Now, if your ex is trying to apologize, you are free to respond if you please, but ultimately, you will have to judge whether it's a good idea or not. If it seems that they are coming from a place of good intentions, you are probably safe to answer it and at your leisure, if you wish. Remember that some conversations, like small-talk or asking how you are, might seem genuine and friendly at first, but they can go in an entirely different direction as they progress.

Many people choose to avoid these kinds of attempts for this reason alone. If you decide to talk to your ex when under a certain impression, but it goes on a different path, end the conversation, and don't answer any more messages in the future.

Depending on the separation's circumstances, ignoring your ex might be the right call, but it was amicable; answering it probably isn't the worst decision globally and can be just like any other social interaction with a friend. Believe it or not, not all break-ups are train wrecks, and many ex-couples are still able to remain as friends and keep in contact regularly.

Even if things did end in a less-than-ideal manner, you could still respond, especially if an apology was involved, as previously mentioned in the last section. However, if you're still upset, it's perfectly acceptable to ignore it. For very bad break-ups, avoiding contact with your ex is probably best because you need time to move on. Keeping your ex around in any capacity in these situations ends up slowing down the healing process for you, and he or she will always be a reminder of what went wrong.

Instead, focus on the present and future, and you need to understand that your grief is normal and will pass with time. If you went through an agonizing break-up, it's best to minimize or eliminate contact with your ex for the foreseeable. Still, perhaps, someday, it's possible to reconnect and be friends, but this depends entirely on how you feel.

Only time will tell, but right now, do you. Your main priorities should be about getting better, and when you're ready, finding someone new. If you are currently seeing someone else, you should ignore all forms of communication with your ex in the vast majority of cases. If it's recent enough, it's just reopening old wounds, and by him or her reinserting themselves back into your life, it makes things harder to move on.

Not only that, it's unfair for the person that you are currently dating. If you respond, it takes your focus off of him or her, and it might make them think that you still have feelings for your ex and question whether they are a rebound. Worst case scenario, your current partner might accidentally get involved in the drama, if there was any, especially if you've vented about your ex before.

Therefore, it's best to give your current partner and yourself the respect that it deserves by discarding the messages, unless, of course, it's about something extremely important, like if you had kids with your ex and the reason him or her contacting you involves them. Many individuals understand when it comes to things like this but never make contact with an ex to chat; it's disrespectful for the man or woman you see.

Some exes will do everything in their power to get through to you, but this usually means that they'll spam your phone with text messages until you respond. It often gets the other person's attention, but it usually upsets them, having the opposite impact and not accomplishing anything.

Perhaps this seems familiar, and you've already told him or her to stop texting you. Unfortunately, if you respond to these messages, it encourages them to keep writing or trying to call you, regardless of how you respond.

The reason that your ex does this is that it's hard to let go. Sure, some are trying to instigate and trying to bait an emotional reaction, but most of the time, it's because they are struggling without you around. This doesn't justify their actions, and it doesn't mean that you should respond. If it's become a problem, and you've already told him or her to stop contacting you, and they've disobeyed that request and are being disrespectful. You can tell them that once more, but if it doesn't help, don't respond to the texts anymore.

No matter what you do, they'll keep texting you, but it'll last longer if you answer them. If you don't give him or her any attention, they'll stop eventually. If not, you can consider changing your number or taking legal action. Couples fight all of the time, and conflict is just a part of being in a relationship - it's unavoidable and something that needs to be managed.

While it's entirely up to the individual whether or not something is worth breaking up over sometimes there doesn't need to be a reason at all other than wanting to find someone else , there are times where some people can overreact to situations that aren't very severe.

Deep down, they didn't want to separate, but the knee-jerk reaction to something caused them to go through with it, and after a while, it leads to regret. They regret their decision and want to get back in touch with you.

The radio silence worked! As I previously mention, Radio Silence is a critical technique in getting your ex back. If you started to implement this tool specifically to make them realize how much they need you then guess what, it worked! Be very mindful of this. A phone call from your ex could also result from guilt. Your job now is to turn this feeling of guilt into a feeling of missing you if you want them back.

Needless to say, this IS how you should be viewing your breakup. This experience can help redefine the relationship you have with the most valuable person in your life : yourself. Happiness is something you create for yourself, and no breakup should impair your ability to live an excellent and satisfying life.

Let them work for it! Work for you! Because after all, your ex is the one making the call. Because of this, the ball is in your court and the jury in your favor. Your coach for knowing how to react after saying my ex called me!

Sincerely, Adrian. I really can't explain why I'm calling you tonight. He was obviously listening to a love programme on radio that night or a night before then , when he suddenly remembered there was once a girl called 'Amaka'. Ex: You and I were serious. It wasn't a play thing. We were going somewhere together, but I manned out. I don't want to say chickened out because I'm not a chicken. Me: I quietly smiled. I have always loved his sense of humour Ex: I saw the need for us to talk.

I mean I saw the need for us to have talked. I said nothing and allowed him talk for as long as he was willing. He spoke for about 20 minutes. Fast forward. Ex: It wasn't about you or what you did or didn't do.

It was me. It was personal. And I needed to fix myself and I didn't want to do that while having somebody around. Blah blah blah. Ex: Ever since we stopping talking, I haven't spoken to anybody else. It wasn't like I got distracted or found somebody else.

As I'm talking to you now, there is nobody. Me: still silent. In my mind, I was like "How is that my business? I had to fix myself. Me: silent Ex: That's it. I didn't know what to say or how to respond. Guess what I said next? Me: Alright. Thanks for calling. I heard him whisper "OK". Then I switched off my phone abruptly. I still laugh at myself for saying nothing. Anyways, I believe my "nothing" said a lot for itself. Their heart is still in love with you but they are trying to convince themselves that they should stay broken up.

They miss you and want to spend time with you, but they are stopping themselves because they think you are too or not good for them. They probably also want to be kept on the "friend zone". But you should not be too comfortable that you were called. That didn't come out right. The thing is, they could be testing to see if you would want them back or just trying to know what's been exactly going on in your life.

Who knows? Hopefully, next week or thereabouts, I will be telling you how to go about calling your ex if you want her back. I'm slowly evolving into a beautiful relationship expert. God's been preparing me for such a time as this.