What makes a guy a keeper

Am I in the right relationship? Is he a great man you hope to spend the rest of your life with? What are the signs that he is a keeper?

Men are different from each other, as well as women. Some men dream to be loving partners while others are not mounted to become one, others may steer clear from relationships, and others want to take the road to romance. So how can you determine whether he is showing signs he is a keeper? Is he that great guy you should never let it go? He believes in himself and believes in his decisions. He believes in your capacity and admires it just as he believes in his abilities.

He knows what he wants and certainly knows how to get it. He puts on an attempt to see a smile pasted on your lips and how he loves that face. If you smile, it lit his face too. Every woman wants to feel secured and safe. He is protective but not authoritative.

That means he cares about you so much that he always wants you safe and healthy. He looks at you and immediately see how beautiful you are as a person, he admires who you and praise your personality. He looks at you with his heart, and he could clearly see what a beautiful woman you are. He is timeless in his ways.

He is respectful and polite. He attends to your needs, such as his own. Certainly, the world is a better place having such person. He is a man with a set goals and plans to achieve them.

He has dreams for himself and the future with you in it. He may be ambitious, but he has convictions in the realization of his dreams in the right way. Being matured means he can take care of himself, and he takes special care of you. If your partner is willing to do that, it shows that they're really committed to you and the relationship.

Fran Walfish, Beverly Hills child, parenting, and relationship psychotherapist tells Bustle. But when it comes to working out the kinks and differences of opinion that lead to unpleasant fighting, most folks gets stuck. I'd like to say this is a no-brainer, but so often I see people in relationships with someone who doesn't treat them as an equal partner. They just do it out of love. Being a great partner means encouraging you to do what's best for you— even if it doesn't involve them.

A great partner should make you feel so comfortable that you can spend time together saying nothing at all. If you and your partner can experience silence together without feeling freaked and worried that something is wrong or — an even bigger red flag — feeling bored, then that's a good sign you can stand side by side on life's unpredictable journey. A guy whose friends have great character — these are the people he has chosen to spend time with, and that tells you a lot about what matters to him.

Spends time learning the things you like as well as sharing the things he likes. Noticed all these things in Jeff Harris a long time ago…!

Extended families are a big part of a marriage too! He leaves me notes of encouragement around the house and instigates family dance parties. I also admire that he respects and loves my family deeply — his love for them is a way of showing love for me. BUT he does it because he loves me and he shows it by sacrificing for me. He supports my ventures, encourages me to try new things and offers praise and positive feedback.

He makes me want to be better at whatever I am doing. And they notice. We do make time for ourselves, but he works long hours and sacrifices a lot for our children and me. What more can you ask for? I share these points not as a checklist, but as illustrations. After years of marriage, those factors are less relevant than how a guy makes his wife feel, how well he leads his family, and what kind of father he is.

My parting message is this: Trust your instincts, girls. Listen to your intuition, for it is a gift. A charming, extravagant guy may be fun to date, but for marriage you need substance. You need chemistry and a deep, genuine friendship. And remember, what makes a guy a keeper — character, kindness, humility, faith, respect, integrity, trustworthiness, responsibility, courage, compassion, tact, honesty, patience, loyalty, a strong work ethic, a strong moral compass — applies equally to you.

You marry to your level of health, and the way to attract a great guy is to first be a great girl. But before you get swept away by a guy with Hollywood flair, remember to check the character.

Choose guys who can make a genuine soul connection — who treat you well publicly and privately, and who make you a better person because of who they are. Thanks for reading this message today. If you enjoyed it, please share it on social media. On Aug. Simply redeem your receipt here.

To keep up with future posts, subscribe to this blog or join me on Facebook , Instagram , and the Girl Mom podcast. This is good food for thought. And also, even when looking at character pre-marriage, there is sadly no guarantee that the person will not change radically over the years. I am so sorry for your experience. There are no guarantees in life and I think the hardest punches are the ones you never see coming. What insight you have, and so timely for me and my Hollywood family daughter and two grandsons, all rising stars.

What a small world, John! I imagine that as a grandfather, you have a special wisdom and ability to discern the truth behind the scenes.